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Mens Facial Hair Grooming; Tips for Girlfriends and Wives

Penelope is retired but teaches English in Rome. She is a published feature writer, playwright and poet. She loves local Italian customs.

Pay special attention to his beard, mustache, and wayward thinning hair.

Pay special attention to his beard, mustache, and wayward thinning hair.

Mustache, Beard Trimming

I'm passionate about my man's facial hair. His beard has the perfect combination of masculinity and softness when it's at that perfect length. I especially love when his mustache is trimmed around his lips to show what a fine mouth he has. It is a totally different story when he is not trimmed.

He's losing his hair now, and what hair he does have left has gone gray and is very fine. I gently trim his hair up with a pair of scissors (a good pair that I keep in the bathroom) because he doesn't have a barber. Sometimes, I trim his beard after he shaves with his electric razor, and I trim his eyebrows because he has some crazy single hairs that curl upwards.

I suggest investing in a very good pair of small scissors and keeping them in a safe place in the bathroom. I really must do the same. (Have made note).

Trimming Unwanted Facial Hair

The barber hasn't been an option for us ever since he started losing his hair. When I notice his hair is getting too long, I suggest he trims it. This takes us to the persuasion phase where I have to navigate around millions of excuses like, "My beard keeps me warm" and "I will, later." Eventually, he will trim it, and allow me to get at all the bits that have begun to over-grow. I've found the hardest part about male hair maintenance is the persuasion phase because it can last a few days (it's best not to argue.)

Eventually, (hopefully within the first 24 hours of the major beard- trimming performance) the opportunity will present itself, and it will be time for you to grab your scissors. Take advantage of when he is reading his newspaper, watching a game, or listening to a radio play million miles away.

Electric Shaver

Tips for Mens Facial Hair Grooming

  1. After you notice that one unruly hair on his eyebrow has grown up to his forehead, suggest that you be allowed to trim it. Swiftly grab those scissors when you get the green-light. It is just ONE hair. There are usually two of them above each brow. You get to both sides, and you're done!
  2. After you notice the hair in his ears looks like it needs cutting, trim the hair inside one ear close to the skin. There are not many snips, he will sit still for this.
  3. There will be a few hairs on the lobes—get rid of those.

The Benefits of Trimming Your Man's Facial Hair

It's economic. Once you have found the style that you both like, and you've found the right way to trim it, you'll always have his hair, his beard and his mustache looking nice and presentable. This means he won't ever come back from the barbers looking like the wrong man. Plus, the intimacy involved in the process keeps you both close.

My companion after his beard mustache and facial hair trimmed!

My companion after his beard mustache and facial hair trimmed!


Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on December 22, 2014:

Graham, your wife knows best. Vanity in a man can be really charming!

Thanks commenting. Appreciated.

Graham Lee from Lancashire. England. on December 22, 2014:

Hi Penelope. A first class hub. I have worn a beard for 12 years now. I have recently trimmed the 'full set' down to a chin beard. I'm not sure if I like it. My wife does and says I look younger; O vanity, vanity. I think It will be regrown before to long. Tip Top.

voted up and all.


Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 21, 2013:

Life wouldn't be worth living together without the love and the trust would it?

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LongTimeMother from Australia on April 19, 2013:

Awesome hub, GoodLady. Isn't it wonderful when your fella trusts you! When my husband wants a trim he wanders outside into the garden with a chair and pair of scissors, and takes a seat in the sunshine. It has become as familiar and cozy as sharing a hot chocolate by a warm fire.

I imagine for some couples, though, the process could be far more stressful. lol.

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 15, 2013:

Glad you enjoyed it and many thanks for being so up about it with nice comments (especially about my handsome man!)

Marites Mabugat-Simbajon from Toronto, Ontario on April 15, 2013:

Good Lady, you are, and great handsome man you have! I really enjoyed the tips you've given here and so amused with the accompanying photos. Good job! Congratulations too!

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 11, 2013:

Oh she'll be doing it again when she's sick of seeing you look like someone else often enough, Im sure.

Thanks for dropping in.

Phillip on April 11, 2013:

Mary used to do this for me but she's given up for the moment, lucky S.

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 11, 2013:

True CozyPozy. A bit like chimpanzees really. Thanks for your sweet comment.

CozyPozy from USA on April 11, 2013:

Your hub really made me smile. What a wonderful way to show your love & keep close.

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 11, 2013:

Thanks so much for looking at and liking this post everyone!

It's being a lot of fun. Fun to do, to write and share.

Appreciate your comments Victoria Sheffield, The DirtFarmer, rebeccamealey, SimeyC, Toytasting, pinto2011,ytsenoh

Cathy from Louisiana, Idaho, Kauai, Nebraska, South Dakota, Missouri on April 10, 2013:

Good for you and your subject and your companion's help on this subject--some people don't like to read about unwanted facial hair, BUT some people NEED to!! Love it and glad you made Hub of the Day. You earned it well. Tips and images and writing all nicely done. Have a good week!

Subhas from New Delhi, India on April 10, 2013:

Very nice ideas and interesting hub.

Toy Tasting from Mumbai on April 10, 2013:

Hey GoodLady, this is an interesting post. Congratulations on HOTD!

Simon Cook from NJ, USA on April 10, 2013:

Brilliant hub - and one I must show my wife!!!

Rebecca Mealey from Northeastern Georgia, USA on April 10, 2013:

This is an evil thought, but this somehow reminds me of that scene in The Color Purple where Oprah "shaves Mista".

Jill Spencer from United States on April 10, 2013:

Congrats on HOTD! I sometimes shave my husband's neck between his haircuts, but maybe I should expand my repertoire. Thanks for the tips!

Author Victoria Sheffield from Georgia on April 10, 2013:


Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 10, 2013:

Beard rash hm? Too many minutes of being too up close? Nice problem wouldn't you think? Joking. Well, maybe. Thanks so much for dropping in and enjoying the party. I'm so enjoying all these stories.

Suzanne Ridgeway from Dublin, Ireland on April 10, 2013:

Hi Penelope,

Great hub, congrats on a well deserved HOTD! Really interesting and what a hunk you have in Tuscany by your side! My partner only sees facial hair on the lazy days as I got beard rash and didn't know what the hell I had! Have done some trimming for him but will keep this close by for further tips you shared! Great hub, voted +++++

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 10, 2013:

He's a very handsome man now, thanks!

Appreciate stopping by.

Bajazid from Sarajevo, Bosnia on April 10, 2013:

Great job, now he is younger for 15 years at least. Congratulate for your HotD!

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 10, 2013:

So we're two peas in the same pod then cclitgirl, now that's nice isn't it? Love finding folk who do the same things I do beecause I like doing those things! Nice of you to pop in and share. I appreciate it, thank you.

So amazing to get the HOTD for this quirky Hub! I'm very pleased about it.

Cynthia Calhoun from Western NC on April 10, 2013:

Penelope - this is freaking awesome. I love this. :) My hubby has the same kind of mustache/beard and it's just so...wonderful, LOL. I love your tips, too. My hubby doesn't go to the barber, either...he actually trims his own and I trim my own hair, too. :D

Congrats on your HOTD!

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 10, 2013:

I got mine to let me take the pictures when he was watching a game and just too tired to resist. I sneaked on him with jut that one hair routine, then said, I'm going to make a hub of you. I think he's kind of vain (?). Anyway, it was all lovely to do and just so fun that it was turned into a HPTD.

Your guy seems to have wonderful hair. Bless.

Thanks for such a great share Sharkye11

Jayme Kinsey from Oklahoma on April 10, 2013:

Awww...beautiful hub. Great job with all the photos too. My husband will gladly let me trim his facial hair, but he would never allow me to take pictures. Not even for a hub! I love that you enjoy doing this for your partner. That is sweet!

Great tips too. I recently talked my husband into growing his goatee into a full beard. He had had the goatee for years and all the other bikers had the same style. He already has beautiful shoulder-length gray hair that curls wonderfully. I get to do all the trimming on that, and have to help him with the beard and mustache in the growing-out stage to make sure the lines are even. It is a lot easier than doing a full shave on a guy--hated that job in the nursing home!

Great hub! You do a wonderful job keeping your guy handsome. Congrats on HOTD!

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 10, 2013:

Thanks, SAM ELDER, we're pretty close! The beard is a major attraction of course. Thanks for comment.

moronkee. I know what you mean about trimming our children's hair. We know how cute they are, so we know how to make them look just great. It doesn't cost a thing! Yea.

dellea- I like a bit of humor in a comment. Thanks. Getting that balance just right sounds like a fun challenge.

ComfortB. Glad you enjoyed my Hub. I had a lot of fun doing it too. Thanks you for comments and congrats.

Natashalh. Hi! Your guy in college had a mind of his own. I wonder where he is no and how he keeps his hair. Maybe he's cut it all off and likes a bald look. Wonder how he'll be when he gets to his sixties. It all changes then and they have to make do with what they have (left?). Thanks for share.

Greatly appreciate your comments and so enjoy this HOTD surprise!

Natasha from Hawaii on April 10, 2013:

Congrats on your hub of the day! I'm used to seeing your recipes and such, so this was certainly a change of pace!

I dated a guy in college who was a grooming nightmare! He would let his hair go for years without cutting it. It looked great shoulder length, but not back length! He would do basically the same with his beard.

Comfort Babatola from Bonaire, GA, USA on April 10, 2013:

You are good! Love the details and the images in this hub. Used to help clip my husband hair when there was hair. He's gone bald now, totally!

Enjoyed reading this, and congrats on the HOTD award.

dellea on April 10, 2013:

This is a difficult topic for me. When I shave my face gets prickly and it makes my wife's face itch when we kiss... but when I let it grow too long it gets fuzzy, annoying and itchy for me... it's hard to have an equal balance. What's funny is the fact that I smoke cigars... if my mustache gets too long and bushy I occasionally catch part of it on fire, then I have to trim it up :)

Moronke Oluwatoyin on April 10, 2013:

Your hubby looks cooool after the trimming. I like trimming my son's hair because it is economical.

An interesting hub.

SAM ELDER from Home on April 10, 2013:

LOL , Very close couple :) nice article :)

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on April 10, 2013:

Yea! Thanks Yvonne!

Yvonne Spence from UK on April 10, 2013:

Yay! Congrats on your HOTD Goodlady!

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on March 18, 2013:

It can happen to the best of us! Enjoy it all as it happens. It's all fun really.

Nice of you to stop by thank you.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on March 18, 2013:

I am glad I don't have those issues, so far so good.

bretthov on February 20, 2013:

will have to prod her as she doesn't think she can do it

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on February 19, 2013:

Glad you agree that 's fun; you have to get your partner going on this then!

Thanks for you comment and welcome to Hub Pages bretthov

bretthov on February 19, 2013:

nice post - good reminder for us guys to pay attention to the details. wish my partner would trim me up - would be kind of fun to have her in control with the trimmers and scissors!

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on February 19, 2013:

It sounds as though you have a great relationship too. Letting you get near their balding hair is quite tender isn't it. Nobody ever imagined getting thin on top, but to share it with your wife or girlfriend is really sweet I've always felt.

Oh, you can do it divacratus!

Many thanks for reading and commenting on my article. Appreciated.

Kalpana Iyer from India on February 19, 2013:

Wow! You have done a really good job. I wouldn't trust myself with this task at all considering how clumsy I can get with a pair of scissors.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on February 19, 2013:

I think it is nice that you trim his facial hair. I have trimmed my husbands and given him haircuts as well. I've only done that since he started losing some of his hair, but it is nice that he trusts me to come near him with a trimmer. I am no barber. I enjoyed your hub. It sounds like you two have a great relationship.

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on February 19, 2013:

It get's us close! I like being in control too. Love the way he looks and thanks for liking him too Susan. (I'm not telling him).

tillsotitan, thanks for votes fellow cutter/trimmer. Do you prefer him without a beard? Mine has to look the way I like him too, though he thinks he does what he likes. It's just a great game really.

Mary Craig from New York on February 18, 2013:

And I am the third, nice job Goodlady. My hubby hasn't been to a barber in over twenty years, I do all the cutting and trimming. He gave up his beard though, said it made him too hot!

Voted up, useful, and interesting.

Susan Zutautas from Ontario, Canada on February 18, 2013:

I know Al wouldn't let me trim his beard or mustache but he might let me trim his hair. I agree with Melovy that your man looks great!

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on February 18, 2013:

Compliment taken kind man! Thanks for linking - that's just great.

Jimmy the jock from Scotland on February 18, 2013:

Another well presented and written Hub by you Goodlady, link recriprocated.....jimmy

Penelope Hart (author) from Rome, Italy on February 18, 2013:

It's easy, well it is for us Maybe because his hair is thinning!

Many thanks for commenting!

Yvonne Spence from UK on February 18, 2013:

Interesting hub. I'm not sure my hubbie would let me near his facial hair though, I don't think I've got your skills with scissors. The before and after photos show you did a great job!

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